New relationship messages

Early on, the risk runs both ways: too much and it lands strangely, too little and it reads as indifference. Warm and specific is the safe middle.

These work for the first month, the first birthday together, and the first card you actually have to sign.

First month

• Best month I have had in a long time. No pressure, just true.
• I keep telling people about you, which is embarrassing but there it is.
• Thanks for making this easy. It is not always.

First birthday together

• First birthday of yours I get to be at. Hopefully not the last.
• Happy birthday. I did not know you last year and that seems odd now.
• Have the day you want. I will carry things and laugh at your jokes.

Meeting the family

• Thank you for having me. I have been told I am on best behaviour.
• Lovely to finally meet everyone - I can see where they get it from.
• Survived the family. Same time next year?

Keeping it light

• This is a card, not a commitment ceremony. Relax.
• Small card, big fan.
• Filed under: glad this happened.

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How to write it so it lands

• Match their energy rather than the printed card's.
• One joke, one honest line, done.
• Avoid anything that implies plans you have not discussed.

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Frequently asked questions

Is a card too much this early?

A card is rarely too much. What you write in it can be - keep it warm, short and a bit funny and it will land fine.

What do you write for a first birthday together?

Wish them the day they want and add one line about the year since you met. Skip anything about the future unless you have already talked about it.

How do you sign off early on?

Your name and a single kiss is plenty. Save the nicknames for when they exist naturally.