Sympathy Cards UK: What To Write When Someone Has Died

Sympathy cards: what to write, what to avoid, when to send

Most people put off writing a sympathy card because they're frightened of saying the wrong thing. A short, plain card sent this week beats a perfect one that never arrives.

Our sympathy cards are quiet by design, printed in the UK and blank inside so the words are entirely yours.

Sympathy messages you can copy

• I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you and I'm here whenever you want company.
• There's nothing I can say that helps, but I didn't want to say nothing.
• Sending love to you and the family. Take whatever time you need.
• I'll always remember how kind she was to me. I'm so sorry.
• No reply needed. I'll check in again next week.

What to avoid writing

• 'Everything happens for a reason' and anything that explains the death away.
• 'Let me know if you need anything' on its own - offer something specific instead.
• Comparisons to your own loss.
• Pressure to reply. Say plainly that none is expected.

Where to shop next

• Buy a sympathy card
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Frequently asked questions

What do you write in a sympathy card?

Name the person who died, say one true thing you remember about them, and offer something specific. Keep it to a few sentences and say no reply is needed.

When should you send a sympathy card?

As soon as you hear, and it's never too late. A card weeks later, when the phone has gone quiet, is often the one that helps most.

Is it alright to send a card instead of attending the funeral?

Yes. Plenty of people can't attend. A card that says you're thinking of them and will check in again is enough.

How fast do the cards arrive?

Orders placed on a working day are usually posted the same day. First Class is normally next working day; Second Class is meant to take two working days but can take up to five.