Baptism timing, costs and what to write

Baptism is the sacrament; christening is the British word for the naming part of an infant baptism. The difference matters most when the person being baptised is an adult, because everything about the card changes.

This guide splits the timing, costs and wording into infant baptism and adult or believer's baptism, which in Baptist and evangelical churches is by full immersion after a period of preparation.

The wording sections are written to be copied straight into a card.

Timing: infant baptism

• Usually three to twelve months old, booked six to twelve weeks ahead through the parish office.
• Often held within a Sunday service so the congregation can welcome the child.
• Godparents are asked six weeks out; most churches expect at least one to be baptised.
• The service runs 20 to 40 minutes, with the pouring of water at the font.

Timing: adult and believer's baptism

• Follows a preparation course, typically six to twelve weeks of classes.
• Dates are usually set by the church rather than the family - often Easter, or a scheduled baptism Sunday.
• Full immersion is normal in Baptist churches; bring a towel and a change of clothes.
• The person often speaks first - a short testimony before they go into the water.
• Family and friends are invited to a meal afterwards rather than a party.

Costs in the UK

• The service: no charge in most churches. A donation of £30 to £100 is customary for an infant baptism.
• Outfit or gown: £25 to £150 for a baby; nothing extra for an adult beyond a change of clothes.
• Cake: £45 to £120 bought, or £15 plus a topper made at home.
• Hall hire for the gathering afterwards: £15 to £40 an hour.
• Food for 30: £120 to £300 catered, £60 to £100 self-catered.
• Typical total: £300 to £800 for an infant baptism, far less for an adult one where a shared meal is the norm.

Gift spend

• Infant baptism: guests £10 to £25, family £20 to £40, godparents £50 to £150.
• Adult baptism: £10 to £30 is plenty, and a card alone is entirely acceptable.
• For adults, a dated keepsake or an inscribed book lands better than a baby-style gift.
• Money is common for infants, rare and slightly awkward for adults.

What to write: infant baptism

• Congratulations on Elsie's baptism. Wishing her a life full of love and good company.
• Welcome to the family of the church, little one. Happy baptism day.
• On your baptism day, may you always know how much you are loved.
• So happy to be here for Jack's baptism - a lovely service and a lovely day.
• Wishing you every blessing on your baptism day and always.

What to write: adult baptism

• Congratulations on your baptism. Taking that step publicly takes real courage.
• What a day. Proud of you for choosing this, and glad to have been there.
• On your baptism - wishing you peace, joy and a good towel. Congratulations.
• You made that decision yourself, and it showed. Congratulations on your baptism day.
• Celebrating with you today and every day after it. Congratulations.

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How to write it so it lands

• Ask which form of baptism it is before buying - a baby card at an adult baptism is a misfire.
• For full immersion, tell guests to expect to stand and to bring a coat; halls get cold.
• Write the date under your name so the card still means something in twenty years.

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Frequently asked questions

What is the difference between a baptism and a christening?

Baptism is the sacrament. Christening is the British term for the naming part of an infant baptism. The cards and gifts are interchangeable; only adult baptism needs different wording.

How much does a baptism cost in the UK?

£300 to £800 for a typical infant baptism with 30 guests. The service is free, with a customary donation of £30 to £100.

What do you write in an adult baptism card?

Acknowledge that it was their decision. One line of congratulation, one line of good wishes, and your name with the date.

How long does a baptism take?

20 to 40 minutes for an infant baptism within a Sunday service. A full-immersion adult baptism usually runs about an hour with testimonies.