Growing up in the 80s and 90s

Nostalgia is specific. "The 90s" means nothing; the exact sound a modem made connecting at 11pm means everything.

Forty below, grouped by where they happened. Excellent fuel for a 40th or 50th birthday speech, a quiz round or a card that lands properly.

Saturday and after school

• Saturday morning telly, and the specific dread of it ending at half eleven.
• Taping the charts off the radio and the DJ talking over the intro every single time.
• The Radio Times at Christmas, gone over with a biro.
• Waiting a week for the next episode, because there was no other way.
• Ceefax page 302 for the football scores, refreshing itself at its own pace.
• The test card, and the moment programmes actually stopped for the night.
• Rewinding a VHS with a pencil to save the batteries in the player.
• Recording over something important because nobody labelled the tape.

Out of the house

• Out on your bike after breakfast, back when the streetlights came on.
• The ice cream van's music from three streets away and the immediate sprint indoors for money.
• Woolworths pick and mix, weighed by someone who never checked closely.
• 20p mix-ups from the corner shop, in a small paper bag.
• The swimming baths and that specific chlorine and hot-dog smell.
• Calling for a friend at their front door, with no warning at all.
• Playing out with no phone, no plan and no way of being contacted.
• Conkers in autumn, and the vinegar-soaking arms race.

Tech and toys

• Dial-up, and the noise, and someone picking up the phone mid-download.
• Blowing into a game cartridge as if it were a proven repair.
• A Tamagotchi dying during double maths.
• The Argos catalogue as a Christmas wish list, corners folded.
• Pogs, Tazos, and the brief but intense economy around both.
• A Walkman with the tape flipped over halfway through a bus journey.
• Snake on a Nokia, and the specific pride of a high score.
• Burning a CD and hoping the tracks were in the right order.

School

• The overhead projector, the acetate sheet and the teacher's terrible handwriting.
• The BBC Micro, then the beige PC in the corner nobody was allowed to touch.
• School disco: everyone against the walls until the last four songs.
• Hi-tec trainers, and having the wrong ones.
• Chip shop lunches and the freedom of leaving site.
• That specific classroom smell of ready-mixed powder paint.
• The Christmas video lesson, wheeled in on a trolley.
• Autograph books and shirt-signing on the last day.

Using this at a milestone party

• Build a quiz round from the year they turned ten. Specific years beat whole decades every time.
• Print six photos from their childhood and pin them up. It does more than any decoration.
• Make a playlist of the number ones from their fifteenth year. That's the year music imprints hardest.
• For the speech: one specific memory, told properly, beats five general ones.
• Write one of these into the card. "Remember the ice cream van" is a better line than any bought verse.

Shop milestone cards

Cards for the occasion

Blank inside, designed in house, posted first class.

Bits for the party

Banners, cake toppers and confetti that are actually in stock.

How to write it so it lands

• Specific beats general. Name the year, the shop, the programme.
• Ask their siblings for one memory each - you'll get better material than you can remember alone.
• Write the memory in the card and date it. That's the bit that gets kept.

Where to shop next

• Old fashioned party games
• Playground games we all played
• Classic British pub games
• Family card games
• Rainy day activities
• Garden games for a party
• Growing up in the 80s and 90s
• Nostalgic quiz questions
• Party supplies
• Work party ideas
• Celebration ideas
• Milestone birthday cards
• Funny birthday rhymes
• Planning the party? Birthday party ideas
• How to make a balloon arch
• Photo booth prop ideas

Frequently asked questions

What do people remember most about growing up in the 90s?

Taping the charts off the radio, dial-up internet, Woolworths pick and mix and playing out until the streetlights came on come up more than anything else.

How do you use nostalgia at a 40th or 50th birthday?

Build a quiz round around the year they turned ten, print childhood photos, and play the number ones from the year they were fifteen.

What makes a nostalgic birthday card message work?

One specific shared memory beats a general one - the ice cream van, the school disco, the game cartridge you both blew into.